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Creating Weather With Words (post by Kirk Weisler)

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Have you every heard the phrase “We carry our own weather with us.”  This implies to me that regardless of the weather outside, that I cannot control, is the potential weather of my attitude and emotions that I can control.  I’m in Vancouver today, doing my 2nd day of training at University of British Columbia to hundreds of faculty.  My subject is naturally workplace engagement.  The title of my training is “The Re-Freshing Co-Worker (how to be one).  Later in the day, I do a couple hours with the leadership team, “The RE-Freshing Leader”.

When I spoke yesterday with a couple folks we talked about how just a few words can invite sunshine or storms into the workplace.

One person gave this example.

When someone says they are going on a cruise, don’t say ‘ I hope you don’t get seasick’.  Instead say,  ‘I hope you have great weather and a wonderful time.  ~ Mary

Whenever I have gotten lazy or thoughtless with my language I’ve regretted the storms it created.

I think we must remember a couple simple concepts…”what we say more of, we see more of” – and “Our lives follow our language”. )  We have incredible power … we can forecast and create our own weather patterns and we can do it with something as simple as words.   Some people create storms, gloom, and cold showers…others create sunshine, warmth and “great days” and they do it with words..

“No one is less ready for tomorrow than the person who holds the most rigid beliefs about what tomorrow will contain.”  – Watts Wacker, Jim Taylor and Howard Means

This fits all those people in our lives who are prone to denouncing any event in the future with phrases like… “This is gonna suck.”  or “I’m not looking forward to that.” or even  “You just wait until they turn two.”

On this overcast day in lovely Vancouver  –  My goal is SUNSHINE!!

I’d love to hear from you guys… what else do people say that indicates they, and we, may not be ready for tomorrow?

Kirk Out (http://kirkweisler.com/creating-weather-with-words/)

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Choosing Kindness

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My daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We’ve decorated her locker, bought new uniforms, even surprised her with a new backpack. But tonight just before bed, we did another pre-middle school task that is far more important than the others. I gave her a tube of toothpaste and asked her to squirt it out onto a plate. When she finished, I calmly asked her to put all the toothpaste back in the tube. She began exclaiming things like “But I can’t!” and “It won’t be like it was before!” I quietly waited for her to finish and then said the following:

“You will remember this plate of toothpaste for the rest of your life. Your words have the power of life or death. As you go into middle school, you are about to see just how much weight your words carry. You are going to have the opportunity to use your words to hurt, demean, slander and wound others. You are also going to have the opportunity to use your words to heal, encourage, inspire and love others. You will occasionally make the wrong choice; I can think of three times this week I have used my own words carelessly and caused harm. Just like this toothpaste, once the words leave your mouth, you can’t take them back. Use your words carefully, Breonna. When others are misusing their words, guard your words. Make the choice every morning that life-giving words will come out of your mouth. Decide tonight that you are going to be a life-giver in middle school. Be known for your gentleness and compassion. Use your life to give life to a world that so desperately needs it. You will never, ever regret choosing kindness.”

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They Are Your Words… You Chose Them (post by Kirk Weisler)

your wordsThey’re your words, choose them – you’ve seen the signs:

ABSOLUTELY NO CREDIT CARDS.

NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR LOST OR STOLEN ITEMS.

BATHROOMS FOR PATRONS ONLY.

Guess what? There’s no legal requirement that signs have to make you sound like a harsh jerk in order to carry weight or to inform the public.

  • To keep our prices as low as possible, we only accept cash. The good news is that there’s an ATM next door.
  • Careful! We’d like to watch your stuff for you, but we’re busy making coffee.
  • Our spotlessly clean restrooms are for our beloved customers only, so come on in and buy something! Also, there’s a public bathroom in the library down the street.

In fact, you might find that when you speak clearly and with respect, you not only communicate more effectively, but people are less likely to blame you when something goes wrong.

The above post from Seth inspired the below weekly “Quote and Question” of the IT Professionals and Team at St Vrain Valley Schools… a team that is deliberately creating a more positive and purposeful workplace culture with every word they speak.

Quote: “In fact, you might find that when you speak clearly and with respect, you not only communicate more effectively, but people are less likely to blame you when something goes wrong.”  From http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2014/04/theyre-your-words-choose-them.html

Question: Can you identify words we/you are using that, if changed, would yield dramatically better results?

I can identify a few words and in addition to those…. I think…..

If I were king for a day… I think I would like to eliminate all use of the word “unfortunately” especially by people who have anything to do with customer service.  🙂

 

Kirk Out

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