The following bit of fun was intended to illustrate the differences between how men and women think (women more and men not so much). However it reminded me of the times in my life when instead of asking immediately to gain clarity and understanding… I over thought something to the point of nearly making myself sick.
Over thinking an issue (especially a relationship issue) rarely leads down the path that ends with giving the other person the benefit of the doubt. Most often this path also leads to a judgment that creates negative feelings in ourselves initially and simultaneously stunts the future potential of our relationship with that person from ever being fully realized.
There is a reason Stephen Covey spent so much time and emphasis in his teaching of the 7 habits on the principle of “Seeking First To Understand”… because when we do we won’t spend so much time making ourselves sick with worry by imagining something in our minds and then creating it in our lives by acting it out. Instead we should just …. ASK.
“Sure, ASKING can sometimes be hard…but the consequences of not asking can be much harder.”
Don’t let your insecurities rule you or ruin your relationships… people prefer being understood over being mis-understood. Give them what you would want – which is the benefit of the doubt and a chance to be understood
Don’t over think it… Just Ask!
Kirk Out…
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