Some people are toxic and may indeed need to go. As Danielle Koepke suggests we should remove them without guilt. But what about people who may not be toxic or uncaring, but just having a bad day? A bad day can lead to a “Bad Day Say” where something pops out of someone’s mouth that may sound and even be toxic but that is not reflective of who the person typically is.
Have you ever had a “BAD DAY SAY”?
I have. When I said something that wasn’t typical of me or reflective of the person I am truly trying to be and would like to think I am. Where I hope people will forgive me, and remind me with kindness, a smile and seemingly instant forgiveness of my better self. In a recent situation I witnessed a person having a case of Bad Day Say and heard another respond to them in this way. “Wow, Teresa that doesn’t sound like you, you must be having a really bad day, what’s going on?” The kind and genuine acknowledgement of the friend led to an almost immediate softening of hearts and words…and I witnessed a bad day become a better day.
Mother Teresa offers us this wise counsel.
No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work. — Mother Teresa
While I don’t agree with this as an absolute truth, because I think some things are simply unacceptable to say… I absolutely do agree in spirit. Don’t let someone intentionally or unintentionally ruin your day or your say. 🙂 You know who you are and how happy and peaceful you want your life to be, so don’t give that away or let it go because of the poor choices or behaviors of others. The rest of us need your happiness and peace and you do too!
Good days make for Good Culture…. and how we handle Bad Days can make for an even better culture.
Kirk Out
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