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Traveling Lightly Through Life by Zen Habits

‘A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ ~Lao Tzu

Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Francine Jay of Miss Minimalist.

I’m often asked what inspired me to become a minimalist. The answer: I fell in love with traveling lightly.
After over-packing on a few trips—and suffering the misery of lugging around a heavy suitcase—I vowed never to check a bag again. On my first trip to Europe, I opted for a small carry-on instead (replacing my wardrobe of clothes with a packet of laundry detergent).

The experience was exhilarating! I was mobile, flexible, and fancy free. I felt like I could go anywhere, and do anything, when I wasn’t loaded down with stuff. And I thought, wow, if it feels this great to travel lightly, how wonderful would it be to live this way?

I began to edit the contents of my home with the same fervor as I had my suitcase. As I slowly ditched the extra “baggage,” I could feel the weight being lifted from my shoulders. 

Lighten your load

Excess possessions are like excess luggage: they can tie us down, get in the way, and drain our sense of energy and adventure. (Have you ever passed up a job offer because of the hassle of moving, or a vacation because there was nobody to “watch the house”?)
Conversely, the less stuff we have to worry about, the more nimble we become—and the better able to embrace new opportunities and experiences.
To regain our freedom, we simply need to lighten our loads. We can accomplish that by borrowing a few packing techniques:

Start with a clean slate. Travelers start with an empty suitcase, and select each item that goes into it. Take a similar approach when decluttering: empty the entire contents of the drawer, closet, or room you’re working on. Then carefully consider each item, and decide whether to return it to the space. Choose what to keep, rather than what to toss.

Question every item. In a small carry-on, every item must pull its weight. Demand the same of your household possessions: have a conversation with your stuff, and ask what value it adds to your life. If the answer is “not much,” give it the heave-ho.

Set limits. To keep his bag light, a traveler might limit his pants to two, his shirts to three, and his socks to four. Use a similar strategy to keep your stuff under control: decide, for example, to own only five sweaters, fifty books, or the amount of craft supplies that’ll fit into one storage box.

Use modules. Take inspiration from packing cubes, and gather like items (cosmetics, office supplies, video games) into separate “modules.” Consolidating your stuff helps you see how much you have, weed out duplicates, and keep a lid on further accumulation.

Think versatility. To save space, light packers favor items that do double- or triple-duty (like clothes that can be dressed up or down, and layered for different climates). Use the same principle in your home: choose versatile or multi-functional items (like a sleeper sofa, or all-purpose saute pan) over single-task ones.

Digitize. Digital music, books, and documents are not only easier to transport—they’re also easier to store. Use technology to transform physical possessions into bits and bytes: scan paperwork, convert CDs to MP3s, and buy electronic books instead of paper ones.

Live on the edge. The light traveler addresses her needs as they arise; if she runs out of toothpaste in Tokyo, she simply buys some more. Adopt a similar philosophy at home: instead of stockpiling stuff or holding on to “just in cases,” acquire things on an as-needed basis.

Lighten your step

In addition to lightening your load, it also helps to lighten your step. Life, like travel, is no fun when you’re plodding through each day, checking off an itinerary, or worrying about what might go wrong. It’s significantly more pleasant, in the words of an old Chinese poem, to “drift like clouds and flow like water.”

Some tips for traveling well through life:

Take the slow train. Instead of speeding through your days, slow down and savor every moment—we only get to take this fabulous trip once. I don’t know about you, but I’m certainly in no hurry to reach the destination.

Look out the window. Too often, we approach our lives with tunnel vision—focusing only on the road ahead, with our foot on the accelerator. Instead, give up the wheel and enjoy the ride; look around, and take in all the beautiful scenery.

Ditch the itinerary. Much fuss is made over goals, plans, and schedules. But any good traveler will tell you that the magic happens when you let go of the reins, and let things unfold of their own accord. Take each day as it comes, and be surprised and delighted by what transpires.

Be mindful of fellow passengers. You’re not on this journey alone; be considerate of your travel companions. Smile, be polite, and respect their privacy and space. Don’t be the guy that nobody wants to sit next to.

Go with the flow. Not every route will be smooth, nor every connection on schedule. Don’t despair if your plans fall to pieces; be fluid, and welcome the possibilities a detour may hold.
When we approach life-like wayfarers, we realize that “more” isn’t necessarily better—and in fact, can be downright burdensome. I’ve never known any traveler to envy how much luggage his neighbor has.

“Less,” on the other hand, can be absolutely liberating—and make for an easier, more exciting, and infinitely more interesting journey!

Francine Jay is the author of The Joy of Less, A Minimalist Living Guide: How to Declutter, Organize, and Simplify Your Life. She writes about living with less at Miss Minimalist.
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Great Ghost Stories – Golden Arm

My favorite childhood Ghost Story.  Whooooo has my golden arm?

http://the-haunted-closet.blogspot.com/2009/01/golden-arm-1973-great-ghost-stories.html

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The Last Great Beyond ~ Thought for the Day by Kirk Wiesler

I would like to invite you to read today’s powerful pull quotes from the great BEYOND illusions.

Is reality set and real or is it fleeting and subjective?  Is the way I perceive the world right now really the way the world is, or is this just my current perception?

Often what is perceived as real is not in agreement with the true facts in the environment.  Spin yourself around quickly ten times and the room starts to spin – but is it really spinning?  Stare at a revolving disk with a spiral design on it and you will perceive movement that isn’t real.  Sit in a car at a stoplight and, if the car beside you starts to roll backward, you get the physical sensation that your car is moving forward and you instinctively press harder on the brake.

Shakespeare wrote, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”.  I suggest similarly that there is nothing good or bad but perception makes it so.  If I decide that a bad situation is actually in some way good – then it is.  Real magic is our ability to change – to turn a bad deal into a good deal – simply by changing the way we look at it.  That is the power of positive perception; and it is powerful magic.

Stephen Covey says it this way, “It isn’t what happens to us that affects our behavior.  It is our interpretation of what happens to us.  And when we can learn to get a better paradigm – get to a different level of thinking – then we are on the road to significant improvement.”  He calls this the essence of self-determination.    I call it the Power of Positive Perception.

“The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.”~ -Theodore Rubin

Believe in magic.   Not rabbits coming out of  hats magic, but real magic – magic that comes out of challenging our interpretations of reality to choose a perspective that creates more options than might first appear.  Beyond Illusions

I know you will enjoy Beyond Illusions…and that it can help you to help others to move beyond their own disabling illusions and help them to change the way they see the world, and themselves in the world.  It can help us to see past the timid little kitten and find the courage to awaken and realize the great lion of our potential.  And it can help us to help others to do the same.

Kirk Out

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The Flutter of their Wings

TFTD by Kirk Weisler

This was written by a Hospice of Metro Denver physician:

I just had one of the most amazing experiences of my life, and wanted to share it with my family and dearest friends:

I was driving home from a meeting this evening about 5, stuck in traffic on Colorado Blvd., and the car started to choke and splutter and die – I barely managed to coast, cursing, into a gas station, glad only that I would not be blocking traffic and would have a somewhat warm spot to wait for the tow truck. It wouldn’t even turn over.

Before I could make the call, I saw a woman walking out of the “quickie mart” building, and it looked like she slipped on some ice and fell into a gas pump, so I got out to see if she was okay. When I got there, it looked more like she had been overcome by sobs than that she had fallen; she was a young woman who looked really haggard with dark circles under her eyes. She dropped something as I  helped her up, and I picked it up to give it to her.

It was a nickel.  At that moment, everything came into focus for me: the crying woman, the ancient Suburban crammed full of stuff with 3 kids in the back (1 in a car seat), and the gas pump reading $4.95. I asked her if she was okay and if she needed help, and she just kept saying “I don’t want my kids to see me crying,” so we stood on the other side of the pump from  her car. She said she was driving to California and that things were very hard for her right now.  So I asked, “And you were praying?” That made her back away from me a little but I assured her I was not a crazy person and said, “He heard you, and He sent me.” 

I took out my card and swiped it through the card reader on the pump so she could fill up her car completely, and while it was fueling walked to the next door McDonald’s and bought 2 big bags of food, some gift certificates for more, and a big cup of coffee. She gave the food to the kids in the car who attacked it like wolves, and we stood by the pump eating fries and talking a little.  She told me her name, and that she lived in Kansas City.

Her boyfriend left 2 months ago and she had not been able to make ends meet.

She knew she wouldn’t have money to pay rent Jan 1, and finally in desperation had finally called her parents, with whom she had not spoken in about 5 years. They lived in California and said she could come live with them and try to get on her feet there. So she packed up everything she owned in the car. She told the kids they were going to California for Christmas, but not that they were going to live there.

I gave her my gloves, a little hug and said a quick prayer with her for safety on the road. As I was walking over to my car, she said, “So, are you like an angel or something?”  This definitely made me cry. I said, “Sweetie, at this time of year angels are really busy, so sometimes God uses regular people.”  It was so incredible to be a part of someone else’s  miracle. And of course, you guessed it, when I got in my car it started right away and got me home with no problem. I’ll put it in the shop tomorrow to check, but I suspect the mechanic won’t find anything wrong.

Sometimes the angels fly close enough to you that you can hear the flutter of their wings…

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Train Blog for Monday, October 18th

Train Blog – where are all the crazy people I talk about that ride the train? Where I say! Today we had police and sheriffs asking for tickets and passes.   Not RT cops but the cops with guns and bullet proof vest. Oh where oh where is the dude with the clear box of weed, the loud mouth fruitcake, the KungFu Lee wanna be.

 

OH THE HORROR!!!

 

So now I’m waiting for the bus and a cop is asking people if they heard gun shots or anyone talking about gun shots being fired. I think its time for me to get a bullet proof vest. Because I’m a reporter for Facebook. Lol lol lol lol.

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Why I don’t care about success ~by Leo Babauta

‘Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.’ ~Albert Einstein

Post written by Leo Babauta http://zenhabits.net/about/> . Follow me on twitter <http://twitter.com/zen_habits> .

A lot of people in my field write about how to be successful, but I try to avoid it. It’s just not something I believe is important.

Now, that might seem weird: what kind of loser doesn’t want to be successful?

Me. I’m that loser.

Obviously, the first problem with success is how you define success … is it becoming famous, rich, creating a world-changing business, coming up with an idea that changes people’s lives, helping others, being happy? So many people with values similar to mine would reject the traditional definitions of success: being rich or famous or having a best-selling book or creating a huge business is not all there is to life.

And those people are right, in my book. If all you’re striving for is money, you’ll do horrible things to get it. If all you want is a successful business, you’ll screw people over to get it. If all you want is fame, you’ll give up your dignity to achieve it.

I could probably get a book on the New York Times best-seller list if I really tried, but it’s not something I care enough about, and I know I’d have to do things I wouldn’t be happy doing in order to get there. I’d have to make promises I couldn’t deliver on, sell something to people who are looking for answers I don’t have, trick them into buying the book.

I could make a lot more money than I make now, if I capitalized on all the readers I have and pressured them into buying more things. But I don’t think buying a lot of things is a good thing, so I’d feel crappy doing that. It’s not worth it.

Snake oil

So those who teach you to be successful … they’ll share methods that are a bit shady sometimes. If not, often they sell you platitudes that sound good but are too vague to really mean anything.

I’ve read many, many things on how to be successful (I can’t avoid finding them — they’re everywhere), and rarely will any of them really show you how to get where you want to go.

And when you don’t get there, you blame not the success system, but your own inadequacies.

The deeper problem

There are other problems, though. Whatever your definition of success, it’s something you’re looking for … something that exists in the future. It’s based on your desire to achieve something, your feelings that you’re not where you want to be.

That’s why the snake oil salesmen are so “successful” … they capitalize on the feelings of inadequacies that other people have. I think that’s horrible.

But beyond that, the trap of striving for this future “success” … it’s never-ending. You strive for more, and then when you get it, you strive for more again. You’re never satisfied. People who have a billion dollars, for example … they’re successful, right? Why don’t they stop trying to make money, then? Why would they possibly need more than a billion dollars? How can you possibly spend that much? They strive to make more because there will never be enough. They’ll never be successful enough.

That’s true not just of the rich, but of anyone who strives for success. Striving is a condition that doesn’t have an end, unless you give it up.

The real success

I might have a lot of readers now on Zen Habits, but I don’t feel that’s what makes me a success. I’ve been a success since Day 1, because even when I had zero readers, I was doing what I loved. Even when no one else would have called me a success (I really was a nobody then), I absolutely loved writing my posts, and though I don’t agree now with a lot of what I wrote back then (in 2007), I was happy.

Success isn’t about achieving something in the future, but about doing something right now that you love.

So doesn’t that mean I care about success? Well, sure, if you define success as whatever it is you care about, then of course you’re going to care about success. But then “success” really doesn’t have a meaning, does it? If it can mean anything, then it means nothing.

So forget about “success”, and just find joy, passion, love, awesome-ness right now, in this moment. *That* is a success you can achieve, without any self-help course, without any method. Just go out and do it.

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Your Happiness

”Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” ~ Margaret B. Runbeck

“Constant care and attention must be given to your personal growth and on going pursuit of happiness.  Go to places you have never been, experience all those things you have been afraid to seek.  Live your life as an adult more like that of a child, and discover the true wonderment, and be happier than ever before”.
~Gigi Galluzzo

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God Happens

I can see it now
My life was breaking down
A lost and so ungrateful and unfaithful soul
Hurt so many friends and now the pain won’t end
And I’m so glad that grace and favor wins

I’ve made You grieve and made You weep
Woe is me I’ve strayed from Thee
Restore me back to that place oh God
Let me rest in You
There’s nobody like You
I found out

[Chorus:]
People will leave you out to die
And not even care that they made you cry
And the more you try, to make it right
It seems like nothing happens
(I found out)
Friends will leave you out to dry
Whom told you they’d never leave your side
But you will find, in the nick of time
It works out because
God happens

Underneath your wings
I can now see my dreams
Your word is my will, sword and shield
Look at me
One with Thee
Finally you’re smiling at me
Restored back to that place in You oh God
There’s nobody like You
I found out

~Song by J Moss

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Fable of the Porcupine

It was the coldest winter ever. –  Many animals died because of the cold. The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together.  This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions even though they gave off heat to each other. After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. This way they learned to live with the little wounds that were caused by the close relationship with their companion, but the most important part of it, was the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.

Moral of the story: The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but the best is when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities  ~Author Unknown

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Nine Quick Tips to Identify Clutter

‘How many things are there which I do not want.’ ~Socrates

 This is a guest post from Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project.

For most people, outer order contributes to inner calm, and sweeping away a bunch of unloved, unused stuff has given me a huge happiness boost.

As “Zen” sifted through the possessions, he identified nine questions to ask the question when confronted with a questionable object. This list helped him to decide what to keep and what to toss, recycle, or give away.

  1. Does this thing work? I was surprised by how hard it was to admit that something was broken and couldn’t be fixed—say, our dud toaster or my daughter’s frog clock. Why was I hanging on to these things?
  2. Would I replace it if it were broken or lost? If not, I must not really need it.
  3. Does it seem potentially useful—but never actually gets used? Something like an oversized water-bottle, a corkscrew with an exotic mechanism, or a tiny vase. Or duplicates. How many spare glass jars did I need to keep on hand?
  4. Was I “saving” it? Leaving bath gel in the tube, or hoarding my favorite stationery in a desk drawer, was as wasteful as never using these things. Spend out!
  5. Does it serve its purpose well? For example, we have a lot of “cute” kitchen objects that don’t really work.
  6. Has it been replaced by a better model? Inexplicably, I’m in the habit of keeping a broken or outmoded version of tech gadgets, even after they’ve been replaced. Pointless.
  7. Is it nicely put away in an out-of-the-way place? One of my Secrets of Adulthood is: Just because things are nicely organized doesn’t mean they’re not clutter. No matter how tidily a thing is stored, if I never use it, why keep it?
  8. Does this memento actually prompt any memories? Sometimes I automatically keep things that fall into the category of “mementos,” assuming that they’d set off some sort of response, but they don’t. The attendance trophy from my daughter’s pre-school sports class—out.
  9. Have I ever used this thing? I was absolutely shocked to find, when I started looking, how many things we owned that we had never once used. Many were gifts, true, but I promised myself we’d either put these things into use within a few weeks or give them away.

How about you? Have you identified any questions that help you decide whether or not to keep a particular possession?

Read more from Gretchen at her blog, The Happiness Project, or read more about her #1 New York Times bestselling book, The Happiness Project.

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